The Nest is Empty

The Nest is Empty

For whatever reason,  I feared the empty nest.  I started worrying about what I would be feeling a couple of years before I even dealt with it.  I started reading a lot of books and talking to friends.   Some would say, “just wait, it’s good”, or” it’s just another season of life.”   Others told me how they lost their purpose and cried all the time.

Before we had children, we were happy with our lives working, socializing and volunteering. Having children definitely did change the choices I made and the way I spent my time, and I would do it all over again. But, that season is over and I’m welcoming this next season with open arms.

I raised my children to be independent—once they turned double digits, I was done doing their laundry….whoop! whoop!  They were encouraged to get part-time jobs in school to understand the value of a dollar.  Why should I feel bad that they were going to do exactly

what I had raised them to do? Leave the nest!

So empty nest, shempty nest!

I now have 2 extra  rooms to use how WE want and  I have not gone through any of the sadness that I thought I would.  At first, I felt a little guilty about not feeling sad, but then started to accept the fact that I took my responsibility seriously, I gave my family my focus.. yes, I worked, but if my kids needed me, they came first.

Needless to say, my children and their future family (ohhhh I can’t wait for that!) will always be important to me, and I will always be here for them; however, just like I would not stop them from moving on with their life, I will not stop moving on with mine.

Thank you for stopping in and reading my very first blog! I look forward to this new adventure of growing in my photography and writing skills and I look forward to engaging with you.

Our last family vacation with the 4 of us

 

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  • Loretta Sayers Reply

    Great post Melanie!! I love it.

    And since you’ve got 2 empty bedrooms, I’ll be coming to visit 😉

    Happy Empty Nesting!

    Xx, Loretta

    January 8, 2019 at 2:38 am
    • Melanie Reply

      LOL and I would love that!

      January 8, 2019 at 1:40 pm
  • Julie Reply

    A co-worker told me I would enjoy the empty nest but I just couldn’t imagine or believe it could ever be true. Surprisingly, I am loving the peace and quiet and being the master of my own schedule! It has been easier to adapt than I had anticipated. I’m glad you are also enjoying this new phase!

    January 8, 2019 at 4:07 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Thanks for popping in Julie! Yes…the master of your own schedule!

      January 8, 2019 at 1:52 pm
  • Nancy Reply

    Great blog! Welcome to the Blogosphere!

    It’s fun!

    Empty Nesting is fun… this I know.

    January 8, 2019 at 5:28 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Thanks for the warm welcome Nancy!

      January 8, 2019 at 1:49 pm
  • Susan Reply

    Mel, congratulations! This is terrific! I just started an empty nester blog in December and it’s so much fun. I can tell you will thrive in this chapter and I look forward to reading about your adventures!

    January 8, 2019 at 11:08 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you Susan! I will check yours out, as well:) We can get ideas from each other!

      January 8, 2019 at 1:51 pm
  • Katie Clooney Reply

    Great post, Melanie! Just like you, I did not experience the sadness sometimes affiliated with the empty nest. My husband and I celebrated. Just don’t tell my kids that.

    January 8, 2019 at 11:18 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Thanks Katie! LOL…I won’t say a word;)

      January 8, 2019 at 1:50 pm
  • Regan Reply

    I am so very proud of you for taking the journey into blogging. As for your empty nest, you will fill it. Kids come and go, next will be grandbabies, potentially an aging parent or a family member who needs you. This “second act” can be overwhelming but exciting too. Look forward to hearing more from you on your journey.
    HUGS!!!!
    Regan

    January 8, 2019 at 12:24 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you Regan….ooooh I’m liking the grandbaby part!

      January 8, 2019 at 1:41 pm
  • Mary V Reply

    Your voice is a welcome add to blogging! Look forward to hearing more 😊

    January 8, 2019 at 3:36 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you Mary for welcoming me!

      January 11, 2019 at 1:19 am
  • Rebecca Phillips Reply

    Love this. I have a spare bedroom, no children at home. But tow terriers that feel like toddlers. Yikes!

    January 9, 2019 at 1:49 am
    • Melanie Reply

      I have 2 maltese’s in diapers and meals are cooked for them, so I understand them feeling like toddlers!

      January 11, 2019 at 1:18 am
  • Lisa Reply

    Congratulations!! The blog looks awesome!! I’m not an empty nester yet, both still in school but it’s coming soon…look forward to reading more

    January 9, 2019 at 3:47 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Hey Lisa…thank you for stopping by. Enjoy these last few years with them at home:)

      January 11, 2019 at 1:17 am
  • Marijke Doldersum Reply

    Congratulations on your first blog post! Very interesting topic and for everybody different. I am a happy empty nester just like you and feel that it was time for the girls to get on their feet and do whatever they need to do. We left one in Australia and brought one to The Netherlands while we moved to France so there is no elderly nor family in the city where they grew up.

    January 10, 2019 at 2:16 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      It sure is different for everyone. I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying your empty nest.

      January 11, 2019 at 1:16 am
  • patricia Reply

    I am so happy your blog is up! We can all relate to the empty nest fear and hopes for our new stage of life. I can’t wait to see how your blog grows!! Congratulations my friend xoxox

    January 11, 2019 at 2:43 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you….there’s a lot of us on here at same stage of life. Love we can all learn from each other:)

      January 12, 2019 at 7:06 pm
  • Christina Daggett Reply

    Hi Melanie, I’m really glad to have found your blog, and your site. I didn’t feel that empty nest syndrome either. We became empty-nesters gradually. Our kids, Alex and Sarah, are 5 and a half years apart. Alex went in the Navy at 18, and Sarah was traveling with us up until a couple of years ago, when she met the man who she would marry, last year. Since we’re perpetual travelers we stay in touch with our kids via Skype. We’ll drop by the Netherlands, in August, because my daughter is due to have her first child on the 4th. I will continue to follow your blog and read more about your interesting life.

    January 12, 2019 at 6:22 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Hi Christina! Isn’t it the best when our kids have flown the “nest” and creating and enjoying their life? I look forward to following along with you on your travels!

      January 12, 2019 at 7:05 pm
  • Amy Kennedy Reply

    Congratulations, my friend! I am so glad we ware doing this journey together! I have learned so much from you and I love your heart! Looking forward to each and every post!

    January 12, 2019 at 3:31 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      and I can say the same thing to you, dear friend. You help me for sure with recipe ideas!

      January 12, 2019 at 6:46 pm
  • Thermptynesthandbook Reply

    Niiiice! Congratulations! 2019 looks bright ☀️!

    January 12, 2019 at 5:01 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you! One day you’ll be ready to start yours:)

      January 12, 2019 at 6:46 pm
  • Ja Doe Reply

    I literally just searched “I don’t have ‘Empty Nest Syndrome’, what’s wrong with me? ” I feel guilty for not having empty nest syndrome. I’m a single Mom and I thought I would dread my only child leaving the nest for college…But nope, nothing so far? Why not? What’s wrong with me? Am I a bad Mom?
    Right now all I’m experiencing is:
    1) WHEN MY HOUSE GETS CLEANED…IT STAYS CLEAN!
    2) My “free” time is my own, I’m not carpooling, making snacks for teams, etc. 3) I can stay up as late as I like and don’t have to worry about getting the kid off to school.
    4)When I buy a “treat”, it’s actually there for more than 1 day. (I had a box of cookies last a month!)
    5)My car never runs out of gas!
    6)No more arguments over curfew, etc.

    Yes, there are the lonely times, but then I hit “Netflix” or text/email a friend and it’s over in about 20 mins.
    Even sailed through the holidays and now looking forward to Spring.
    All the above stated… I did start a new business a few years ago and it’s doing really well (better than I imagined, but a LOT more work too…), so I am still working a 20 hour work day, so maybe that’s it? After the business is more settled in a couple years, I’m thinking about getting my Master’s Degree… but after that, I promise, I’ll set aside some time for “Empty Nest Syndrome”

    But for now…I just don’t have the time for it.

    February 25, 2019 at 6:59 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Jae….great response! I totally believe that life is what you make it and I’m really enjoying this time in life as well Jae

      February 27, 2019 at 3:40 pm

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