It’s time for a midlife change…

It’s time for a midlife change…

Where do you turn when you’re going through a difficult life circumstance and it’s on your mind in the middle of the night?  I often pick up my tablet and click on google. Lately, it’s been about celebrating midlife after retirement.

I will randomly stumble across a blog and learn from that blogger’s situation.  They are sharing their experience, how they have gone through a situation and come through victoriously, or have found a system that works.  I read what they went through a few months back, or a few years back, and I think “when I get through this, I’m going to blog about it and share my story too.”

I’m in a comfortable spot and I don’t like being comfortable.  I don’t think one grows too much when they’re comfortable.  I do not feel like I am living up to my full potential, or living my best life.

From the outside, my life is pretty nice. I’m perfectly happy, have a great circle of friends, nice home, my husband and I just celebrated our 30 year anniversary, our children are off on their own and doing well, my parents are alive and fairly healthy, and my days are filled from morning to night doing “things”.

But, I still have this uneasiness, this feeling of living in limbo.

It’s very easy for one day to roll into the next, and then a month has gone by and before you know it a year.

Thinking back and trying to figure out when, and why, did I start to feel this way?  Hormones?  Possibly??  Going to have to explore that a little more. Maybe it was when the kids moved out and I didn’t see a boomerang situation happening?

In December 2018, is when I realized, I’m not making the most of my one life.  It hit me that this is ridiculous.  Enough is enough and it’s time to celebrate life…I am going to celebrate MIDLIFE!! I started this blog then  (on my list of things I wanted to do when I retired) and set my year-long plan, committed to blogging, weight loss, and exercise plan, and was ready to steam ahead.

The day after I had made my plan, and the commitment to change things up, January 26 happened, and it kind of sucked the wind right out of my sails.

It’s been 4 months now and I haven’t even looked at that plan.  This recent experience in my life has shown me why it’s good to have a plan.  If I didn’t have something to follow right now, I would just wander, but I want to live my life to the fullest and not just wander through it.

I would love this to be the post 6 months from now that says….this is how I lost that extra 20 pounds, or how I finished my bedroom, or how I grew my following, or how I was able to fade the brown spots on my face, or how I started back with voice lessons again….. but it isn’t.

This post is the first to hold myself accountable so that in 6 months I can share how I lost 20 pounds, finished my bedroom, grew my following and so many more exciting things.

Hope you come along with me and please share your advice, experience, or jump on the bandwagon with me and tell me something you’re doing to live your life to the fullest

Student standing above the sign for start

Life is so worth celebrating, no matter how old you are! Xx


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  • Heike Reply

    You go Mel! I will be here to cheer you on.

    June 15, 2019 at 1:24 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Awwww…thanks Heike! xo

      June 17, 2019 at 1:22 am
  • Amy Kennedy Reply

    Awe Melanie! I love this! It brought tears to my eyes! I feel right where you are at and I think you are on the brink of a huge breakthrough maybe something you never dreamed of but more amazing than ever! You have so much love and talent and I am just so thrilled to be able to sit on the sidelines cheering you on! I’m there, girlfriend! Or as Captain America would say, “Cause I’m with ya to the end of the line!”

    June 15, 2019 at 4:44 am
    • Melanie Reply

      I just love you and your encouraging way Amy. Thank you for reading and commenting xo

      June 17, 2019 at 1:23 am
  • Loretta Sayers Reply

    I have to say, starting my blog in midlife was the best decision I could have made. Melanie, I encourage you to continue this journey. No matter what twists and turns come your way, you will gain so much. I’ll follow you!

    June 17, 2019 at 5:10 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      I so appreciate your comment, Loretta. Thank you for always supporting me <3! I'm moving forward.

      June 17, 2019 at 5:16 pm
  • Lucia Reply

    You put my feelings into words, Melanie. So grateful I came across this post today. I needed to know I wasn’t alone in the “limbo” stage!

    June 20, 2019 at 5:50 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Not alone my friend. We’ll figure it out! xo

      June 25, 2019 at 12:56 am
  • Barbie Holmes Reply

    You’ve got this Mel! The tiny steps build momentum! I’m with you all the way! Happy Anniversary! Enjoy your vacation with your hubby! Xoxo ❤️

    June 24, 2019 at 5:26 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Thanks Barbie….just put one foot in front of the other, right? xo Melanie

      June 25, 2019 at 12:56 am

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